I stumbled yesterday into a little antiques and used bookstore in the tiny town where I live. Somewhere between the books on Civil War heroes and the vintage prints at the back of the store I started to cry. In spite of all the holly jolly cheer blaring at us from every direction, there is a special kind of sadness that comes with the holidays.
Virtually all of us have experienced losses that seem to rise to the surface during the holiday season. The empty chair, the face no longer seen ‘round the hearth, the haunting scents and melodies that remind us of happier times, not to mention the increased stress we all feel this time of year.
For those in the midst of marital trauma, the holidays can bring painful to a whole new level. Partners caught in the triangle of an affair deal in heartbreak the way department stores deal in glitz, and the ordinary stresses of everyday life can get the best of us and our marriages. This drama and heartbreak can make surviving infidelity during the holidays seem an impossible task. It’s no accident that most divorce filings occur in January, but you can take steps right now to make sure you don’t become one of those statistics. Below are some tips for navigating with grace and dignity – even, or perhaps especially – when it seems you just can’t face one more day. I call it the Grown Up Christmas List.
originally written and published for Marriage Advocates follow the link below to continue reading
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